odds and ends

Christmas coat drive

Share The Warmth

From November 29 to December 20, hang new or gently used hats, gloves, scarves, and mittens on the Evanston Friends Meeting Mitten Tree, which will stand this year in the southwest corner of the Welcome Room.

First Day school and senior high youth ask for your donations of coats, boots and/or money for Care for Real Care for Real is a not-for-profit in the Edgewater area of Chicago that provides food, clothing, and household goods to folks in need, including newly arrived refugees, who are sent to Care for Real by some major refugee support organizations.

The First Day School and the senior high youth are collecting FRESHLY WASHED/DRY CLEANED and GENTLY USED coats for men, women, and children as well as boots.

Please put you coat/boot donations in the big cardboard boxes on either side of the front door. Donated items should be clean and in good condition. Zippers should work, all buttons should be in place, and clothes should not have ripped seams, tears, holes, or fraying edges. If you want to help fund the purchase of new coats to be donated to Care for Real, please put into a meeting contribution box your check (made out to Evanston Friends Meeting but notated for use in the coat drive) or an envelope with your cash contribution similarly noted for the coat drive. The middle schoolers and senior high school youth will be involved in purchasing coats and boots from the donated funds. They will work with Meredith George and members of the religious education committee in delivering all donations.


2017 Inquirers Meetings

Evanston Friends Meeting (Quaker) Inquirers’ Meetings

Each year we hold a series of discussions about the Quaker way. These discussions are intended for newcomers and those who are familiar with the Quaker beliefs and practices but would like to explore them in more depth.

Here are some questions to help you decide if these discussions are for you: Are you a new attender who is somewhat intrigued by Friends although not quite sure what we’re all about? If you have been around awhile, do you still have hazy notions of some Quaker beliefs or practices? Have you been an Inquirer before but missed a few sessions? If you answer “yes” to any of the above, this series is for you! Its purpose is solely informational; and while new attenders are especially encouraged, other Friends are always welcome to attend.

If you would like to help out, or sign up to attend, please contact Mary Theis at 847-677-7022 or marytheis@yahoo.com.

Inquirers Meetings will begin Sunday, February 5 at 12:30 (after Meeting for Learning).
We will meet at Evanston Friends Meeting, 1010 Greenleaf in Evanston in Friendship Hall. A light lunch will be served.

Sunday, February 5 at 12:30 (after Meeting for Learning) Sharing Our Stories and Questions
What spiritual paths vhave led us to the Religious Society of Friends? Where are we now in our spiritual journeys and what are we seeking? What questions about Friends do we hope to have answered in these sessions? How might Meeting support us in our spiritual journeys?

Sunday, February 12 at12:30 (after potluck) What do Quakers believe about the Divine?
What words, images, concepts, and metaphors reflect Friends’ spiritual experiences? Are we “Christian?” How do we regard the Bible? Do we have sacraments like baptism or communion? In the absence of a theological creed, what unites Friends? How are “queries” used? What are participants’ experiences of the Divine?

Sunday, February 26 at 12:30 (with simple meal) Friends’ Testimonies and Queries
What is meant by a “testimony”? What are the traditional testimonies of Quakers and how did they arise? How do Quakers use Queries? How can queries and testimonies further our personal spiritual practices? How can we use Quaker tradition to deepen and sustain our ability to live these principles? What are some ways that we express our commitment to social justice?

Sunday, March 5 at 12:30 (After Meeting for Learning) Worship in the Manner of Friends and Ministry
Why is our worship “unprogrammed,” and what does that mean? How is Meeting for Worship different from meditation? What’s the difference between “giving a message” and “testifying,” “sharing your experience,” “offering your thoughts,” or just talking? How can individuals know if they have “received a message” or if they should share it? Why don’t we use choirs, organ, religious artifacts, or scholarly sermons? What opportunities do we offer for spiritual growth?

Sunday, March 12 at 12:30 (after potluck) How Does EFM Function? Business and Decision Making
Why don’t Quakers have paid clergy? How are marriages and memorial services conducted? What are Clearness Committees? What is a “leading”? How does the work of the Meeting get done? How is our local Meeting organized? What is “First Day School?” What committees are open to attenders? What is a Monthly Meeting? How are Meeting for Worship and Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business related? How do consensus, unity, and “sense of the Meeting” differ? How are financial contributions received? What is the membership process?

Sunday, March 26 at 12:30 (With simple meal) – The Wider World of Quakers
What is a “yearly meeting” and what does it do? How do we relate to other Quakers in the Chicago metro area and the nation? What are Friends General Conference, Pendle Hill, Friends Committee on National Legislation, AFSC, Friends World Committee, and QUNO, and what do they offer us? What is Friends Journal? How can you find Quaker Meetings in other locations?


Documents & Downloads

Follow the links below to retrieve a document

Our Library Collection of Books – sorted by author
Our Library Collection of Books – sorted by title

2008 State of Society Report

2007 State of Society Report

2006 State of Society Report

Meetinghouse Use Form

Check back later for info on the next silent retreat

2016 EFM Handbook

“When Friends Attend to Business” by Thomas S. Brown

“An Introduction to Quaker Business Practice” by Eden Grace

Guidelines for Offering Spoken Ministry in Quaker Meetings

Quaker practice and electronic media

Renewable wind energy statement


Potluck Dinner Instructions

If you have an asterisk by your name it means you are responsible for contacting the rest of the group. If you cannot keep this commitment please find someone to substitute for you, but please let us know if you have done so.

Your Responsibility:

  • Bring a dish to share
  • Set up for potluck
  • Serve dishes provided by attenders
  • Clean up after potluck

Dinner Supplies: Hospitality Committee will provide basic supplies of milk, a loaf of bread, butter and 2 cheese pizzas which you will find in the Meeting House refrigerator. (Birthday cake will now be served First Sunday at rise of Meeting.)

Coffee: Directions for making coffee are posted near the coffee maker. Don’t make more coffee until you check on what returns from post Meeting coffee time. Usually there is enough.

Set Up: Turn on ovens to keep things warm depending on what comes in. Turn on power button for dishwasher to warm up before we eat. Directions are on front of dishwasher. Fill plastic silverware basin with sudsy water and place on dirty-dish pass-through. Set out plates, forks, knives, spoons, napkins, glasses, mugs. Clean tables and put tablecloths on tables. Salt and pepper can go on tables.

Serving: Before serving hold hands and ask someone to give blessing.

Clean up: Small children are to be kept out of the kitchen for safety’s sake; kitchen door can be closed. Please clean up thoroughly, leaving NO leftovers in the fridge or dishes on the drainboards. Tables need to be wiped. Dish towels and tablecloths need to be taken home to be washed and brought back the next week. Empty the coffee grounds, and UNPLUG THE COFFEE MAKER. Turn power off on dishwasher. Turn off exhaust fan over the stoves. Make sure exterior doors are locked and secure.

Donated Money should be put in an envelope or napkin and placed in the collection box with a note that these are donations from Potluck Dinner.

Thanks for all your help.


Sunday Breakfast Instructions

Thank you for agreeing to prepare First Sunday Breakfast on Working with you will be:

If you have an asterisk by your name, it means you are responsible for contacting the rest of the group and arranging for supplies. If you cannot keep this commitment please find someone to substitute for you, but please let us know if you have done so.

You have a choice – you can serve pastries, fruit, juice and milk, or pancakes.

Your Responsibilities:

Set up . Turn on power button for dishwasher to warm up before we eat. Fill plastic silverware basin with sudsy water and place on dirty-dish pass-through. Set out plates, forks, knives, spoons, napkins, glasses, mugs. Clean tables.

Coffee: Directions for coffee making are near coffee maker. Coffee supplies are in cabinets next to coffee maker.

Clean up: Stop serving by 9:45. Small children are to be kept out of the kitchen for safety’s sake; kitchen door can be closed. Please clean up thoroughly, leaving NO leftovers in the fridge or dishes on the drainboards. Directions are on the front of dishwasher for washing dishes. Throw in a Tbsp or so of dishwashing powder detergent from under dish sink for each load of dishes. Tables and counters need to be wiped. Put dishes away. Turn off light and fan above stove. Turn off power on dishwasher. Take money from collection plate to repay yourself for your expenses and put any extra money collected in an envelope (or napkin) labeled “pancake breakfast” and place in little wooden collection box on north wall of Meeting Hall upstairs.

IF YOU CHOOSE PANCAKES – Supplies for about 30 people:

  • 1 to 2 boxes pancake mix.
  • Eggs
  • 1 gal. lowfat milk, orange juice
  • oil
  • Butter, Margarine, or Spread
  • 1bottle of syrup
  • 1 jar applesauce
  • bananas or melon if you want

CHECK SUPPLIES FIRST – even the week before. You don’t have to buy all this every month. Look in fridge for open pancake mix, butter, eggs, syrup, orange juice. Don’t buy it if we have it. Look in northwest corner cabinet – to right of microwave for mix, syrup, applesauce. We don’t have to stockpile this. We only cook pancakes once a month. Pancake griddles are in drawer under stove. Use nylon not metal spatulas. There is spray Pam somewhere. Potholders in drawer to left of stove. Put plates on pass through.
And thanks for all your help.


Policies for use of Evanston Friends Meetinghouse

Quaker organizations, committees of Evanston Friends Meeting, committees of other Friends’ Meetings in the Chicago metropolitan area, and other nonprofit organizations with which the Meeting or a member of Meeting is affiliated may request use of our Meetinghouse for special events. Because approval by EFM’s Committee of Trustees is needed, requests must be received at least one month before the date of the event.

The first step is to ask our Caretaker whether the space desired in the Meetinghouse might be available on the date(s) and time(s) requested. Then either our Caretaker or one of the Trustees will provide the “Request for Use” form which must be completed and returned for consideration. The requestor will be notified as soon as a decision has been made.

The sponsoring member of Evanston Friends Meeting is expected to attend the entire event and be responsible for overseeing the use of facilities and the security of the building. The organization is expected to make a donation to help defray EFM’s utilities and maintenance costs. Groups that wish to use the Meetinghouse regularly for a period of time or groups planning an event that is not normally held in a church may be asked to provide a “Certificate of Insurance” that names EFM as a co-insured during the time of use. This temporary addendum to any liability policy is provided routinely by insurance agents, usually for a nominal fee.

Please do not request use of the Meetinghouse for private social events or parties to which only certain F/friends and/or family members are invited. However, the Meetinghouse may be used for social events that are open to all members and attenders and that are sponsored by a standing committee of EFM or another Friends Meeting.

Alcoholic beverages are not permitted in the Meetinghouse or on the grounds.

Trustees cannot approve use of the Meetinghouse for events designed to make a profit for an individual or group that lacks nonprofit status. Even for nonprofits, any food service fundraiser advertised to the public would violate Department of Health ordinances.

The Meetinghouse cannot be used as sleeping space for travelers and other groups seeking overnight accommodations.

(An exception is made only for the annual Youth Quake, whose well-supervised schedule includes a traditional “lock-in” that is typical of youth activities in other faith communities.) Meetings of EFM’s committees, whether scheduled or unscheduled, and meetings of small groups related to committee functions (e.g., clearness committees, Friendly Dinner groups) do not require submitting a form for approval of Trustees. However, it is important to ask the Caretaker whether the room(s) desired will be available.

Confusion and disappointment (as well as a chilly room) can be avoided by ensuring that all meetings are noted on the calendar.

To submit a request to use our Meetinghouse please click here